Whether a pregnancy is planned or unplanned, the man plays an important role in the decision of whether or not to parent a child. Regardless of your relationship in the future, both parents should be involved in making the best possible decision for the current situation. If your partner suspects that she might be pregnant, or even if she has had a pregnancy confirmed, you may be feeling pressure and have some questions.
When you come to our center, you will have the opportunity to discuss the many ways for you to help your partner. For now, here is some advice to benefit both of you.
Take the Time to Talk: Have open conversations with her in which you both express your thoughts and feelings. Additionally, you should both discuss the situation together with your parents and other people who are close to you and will be impacted by your decisions about this pregnancy. You will both benefit from sharing your thoughts and feelings instead of attempting to keep them hidden inside. This will only cause stress that can burst out unexpectedly and lead to a more serious issue.
Listen to Her: You are a part of this pregnancy, but keep in mind that this situation involves more than just you. You and your partner are both responsible for making decisions for yourselves and your baby. The best thing you can do is to listen and respond to her needs.
Remain Calm: She needs your support. Although she is the one carrying the baby, you are both playing a part in this pregnancy. No matter how stressed you might feel, do your best to keep your emotions under control and be respectful. You two need to work together and remain in sync during your shared pregnancy journey.
Be Honest: You might have feelings of anger, frustration, and fear – that is normal, and it is okay. While you should do your best not to add to her stress, you should still be honest with her. She is also likely facing her share of challenging feelings, so she will be grateful when you remind her she is not alone in this.
Fatherhood is an awesome responsibility and a tough job. Fatherhood Coaching is available free of charge in each of our centers. All of our coaches are fathers and we understand what you are going through and are here to help. There is no obligation and we can meet and talk when you are available.